So you think you're 'busy'?

It seems like the most common greeting I hear now is – been busy? Never really posed as a question though, more like a commiseration on a common struggle.

What happened to – Hi, how are you? Before we assume that everyone is living a crazy busy life?

I am often asked how I ‘find the time’ to fit it all in and still have time for myself. I do tend to have a lot of different things going on at any given time and I always have. This used to cause me so much stress, I wanted to do it all and tried to force things to work way too often. I felt like there was a constant internal battle within me, pulling my attention from commitment to commitment. Even though I did well in majority of the things I was involved in, I was rarely truly focused on the task at hand. I felt like I had to push through my life. My mentality was ‘the struggle will be worth it in the end.’ But after every ‘end’ the next things began.

Fast forward and now I have the same amount of commitments and am constantly taking on new projects and adventures, but the difference? Now everything flows. Everything falls together in perfect timing and things very rarely feel forced or stressful. If those feelings of stress start to creep up I now know how to pull myself back and not get consumed by overwhelm.

Below are 3 key lessons I have learnt that help me get what I want to done and also make sure I spend time on myself.

Think ‘choice’ management not ‘time’ management.

I hear a lot of people justify their lack of organisation with “I am just not good at time management.”

To be honest I think this is a big cop out.

Time is not something we can ‘manage’ simply because we have no control over ‘time’. We are all blessed with the exact same 24 hours each new day, 7 days per week. When we think that we are ‘just not good’ at managing something that is outside of our control it makes sense and we can easily justify our lack of getting stuff done to ourselves.

What we do have control over is our choices. We choose what we prioritise and what we ‘spend our time on.’ We are all responsible for OUR choices, it is our choices that we need to shift our focus onto managing to be able to get more done. Not just ‘more’ done but more of what is important done.

When we think of it as choice management it can be a lot more confronting for us to think that maybe we are just making poor choices. When we take responsibility and hold ourselves fully accountable for what we choose to do we will always get more of the right stuff done.

Remember that when you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else. We all make the choice on what we say yes to.

Set priorities and make YOURSELF a priority.

When we are confronted with so many options to choose from and asked to be involved in so many different things, it was be hard to keep up with what we are saying yes to which leads to over committing ourselves. Over commitment tends to lead to either a) burning out with no time to look after yourself or b) creating a habit of not following through with commitments.

A simple way to know when you should be saying yes and when you should be saying no, is to know your priorities and know what you stand for and value.

When you are clear on what it is that you value, whatever it is for you, it becomes easier to know whether or not the opportunity before you is something you should pursue. If it fits in with your values and is something you have the ability to prioritise then great, go for it! If it isn’t aligned with what you want to focus on then say no. You never have to feel bad for saying no, because by doing that you are saying yes to the things you want to focus on.

Setting priorities will help you get more done, every morning ask yourself – what is the most important thing for me to get done today?

Whatever it is, do that first! When we do the important things first the smaller things fall into the gaps however if we start with the smaller not so important things they tend to take up a lot of time and energy and often the bigger important things are postponed.

Know what your priorities are and get your important stuff done first!

Most importantly, make sure that your self-love cup is on your priority list. Do something to fill yourself up, to energise yourself. When you feel good, everything in your life becomes easier and flows more seamlessly.

Transform your ‘Busy Mindset’ into an ‘Abundance Mindset’.

It is like being busy has become an addiction that we try to out-do each other on. It seems like everyone likes to think that they are busier than everyone else around them. Having a lot on is one thing but being at the point of wishing you ‘had the time’ for something but being ‘too busy’ to do it, is another.

Busy-ness often leads to being rushed, making compromises, stress and ultimately burning out. When you live in a busy mindset you always think that you will never have enough time to get it all done.

When we flip the switch and think “I have all the time in the world” and “I have all the time that I need.” We start to create an abundance mindset and we find that we really do have all the time that we need.

Whenever I feel like I am running late or not going to meet a deadline, I stop, take a breath and say to myself “I have all the time that I need.” And I always do.

It sounds so simple but it is so effective, when our mind is racing on overdrive from thinking we don’t have enough time, it takes us longer to do what we need to. When we stop, clear the mind and affirm that we do have the time, we are more focused and everything will fall into place.

 

So remember -

Think ‘choice’ management not ‘time’ management.

Set priorities and make YOURSELF a priority.

Transform your ‘Busy Mindset’ into an ‘Abundance Mindset’.

 

You are in control of and are responsible for your choices. You deserve you make yourself a priority. You have all the time that you need to do the things that really matter.

 

With love,

Rachel  xx

The Power of Gratitude

According to the dictionary Gratitude is “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”

Beautiful quality to have, there is so much to be thankful for! Yet so many people go through the motions of life in a haze of disappointment. When we are constantly comparing our current situation to where we want to be in the future, where we were in the past or where other people around us are at, we lose touch with how much there is in front of us right now to be grateful for.

For me, gratitude is the fastest and most beautiful way to bring me back to the present moment. To make me realise that whatever worry, stress or anxiousness I am feeling is only caused by my mind trying to take me anywhere but where I am. When I ask myself “what are you grateful for right now?” It anchors me in and allows me to show so much appreciation to how my life is right now, it is the most effective way for all those unwanted feelings to melt away. It also allows me to express appreciation to those feelings because they act as a prompt to make me more present.

Expressing gratitude has been a habit of mine for a while now so when Carlo told me about his Vibe Tribe Gratitude Mastermind, I was very interested in finding out more. We have just completed an intensive 14 days where we express 3 things each that we are grateful for. Although I do note down 3 things I am grateful for each night, Carlo’s challenge was to get really specific and go deep with exactly why we are grateful for what we listed. 

 

"It's not about being positive all the time, terrible things are going to happen, but gratitude teaches you how to appreciate both the good and bad" - Carlo Cirillo

 

I threw a few questions at Carlo Crillo – lifestyle entrepreneur, founder of Project Infinite and mastermind behind the Gratitude Vibe Tribe, to gain some more insights behind his thoughts on gratitude and how everyone can establish a gratitude practise.

Tell me about the inspiration behind your Gratitude Mastermind?

Late last year a mentor of mine took me under his wing and gave me full immersion guidance for about 3-4 weeks, Practicing & expressing gratitude every single day. In the process he showed me how to get really specific, deep and how you can acknowledge and be grateful for every little thing in life. Whether it was objects, feelings, emotions, senses, personal attributes, people, good or bad situations, basically anything in life. This really opened my eyes to how everything effects and impacts each other but also how much appreciation I had for life and everything in it. I saw how much it has helped me and knew it could help others too and I knew it would be doing him an injustice not passing this valuable tool onto others, so I decided to form the Vibe Tribe Gratitude Mastermind.

What impact has expressing gratitude had on your life?

Expressing Gratitude has given me a strong awareness for all the little things around me, the power to control my emotional state and it has changed the way I see the world. I can find peace at any moment, as far-fetched as that seems there is a blessing and thankfulness to be found in all situations, with this peace I find myself happier and more appreciative. How can you be angry and upset when you are thankful? Someone, somewhere in the world could only dream of being able to go through what you are going through, or have what you have. It's not about being positive all the time, terrible things are going to happen, but gratitude teaches you how to appreciate both the good and bad and see the benefits of both. Mental alchemy. Even in the not so positive moments throughout the day there is so much to be grateful for and it's been able to help me realize that certain times for me that seemed to be “the worst of my life” were in fact huge blessings. "Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." Buddha

And what impact has that had on the people around you?

I feel by me expressing gratitude and having this appreciation for life, all the things in it I am able to effect the people around me simply by being a better human being. I find I focus more on listening and being present which is something people really appreciate. I am able to help others see the good which in turn can shift their paradigm and give them the ability to look through a new perspective.

How can others bring more gratitude into their life on a practical level?

A few simple ways anyone can practice more gratitude in their life would be to firstly in the morning, just as you are under the covers in bed, say thank you. And just think as to why you are thankful. I do this every morning, Thankful for being able to wake up breathing and live another day. We are gifted 86,400 seconds of life in a day, I think it's only fair to spend a couple of those seconds just to say thank you. Another way can be writing down 3 things you are grateful for each night before bed. It can be literally anything! A person, feeling, emotions, place, object, experience, situations, dreams, attributes etc. Make sure it is very specific, for example instead of just saying: “I am grateful for my family”, narrow it down to the deep specifics like “I am grateful for the strong and loving relationship between me and my mum – and specifically because of the phone call we had today.” Then underneath that write how that specific affects you personally - your feelings, your actions, your emotions. Then how it impacts your community and the people around you by you having those feelings, action and emotions. And then how that specific gratitude impacts the world on a global scale – ie: how others would benefit from having that situation in their life, strong and loving relationships with parents. Once you get the hang of it, you can go wild expressing gratitude for everything & anything!

What are 3 things you are grateful for right now?

I am sincerely grateful for the blessing of another day alive on earth, My relationships – family and friends and everything that has happened in my past

If you would like to connect with Carlo you can find him on Facebook – Project Infinite or through his website here

What are 3 things you are grateful for night now? I would love to hear, you can leave a comment below.

Thank you for reading x

With love, Rachel


Here is my list from the past 14 days. I could write an entire post on each of them but I’ll keep it short and sweet in here. If you would like my specific reasoning behind why I was grateful for that particular thing on each day, I’d love to share more. You can connect with me here x

1.       My laptop and internet for enabling global connections

2.       Car and ability to drive and teach people to drive

3.       My Breath

4.       The Sun

5.       My bed – the warmth and security it provides

6.       My Dad

7.       Meditation

8.       My shower

9.       Working with some of my close friends

10.   My life coach

11.   A fellow coach’s blog post – for the inspiration it provided me with

12.   My board position with Mallee Family Care

13.   My position in the Mildura Young Professionals Network

14.   A Place to call home, my shelter

15.   My job

16.   Being asked to speak about leadership to local primary school students

17.   Thai food

18.   A good friend of mine’s surgeon

19.   People who give me feedback

20.   Randoms who smile at me

21.   Books

22.   Fire alarms in my house

23.   My cousins

24.   My coaching clients

25.   Rotary and all service clubs

26.   Mum for cooking me dinner

27.   My epsom salt, coconut oil, essential oil bath

Theme – ‘personal attribute’

28.   My courage

29.   My ability to let things go and move forward

30.   My sense of adventure

Theme - ‘feelings and emotions’

31.   Love

32.   Fear

33.   Trust

Theme - ‘objects around me’

34.   My pen

35.   My sun lamp alarm

36.   My Pandora ring

Theme – ‘specific situation from the day’

37.   Doing Meals on Wheels at work

38.   Yogi Barre class I went to

39.   Time with my youngest sister

And finally

40.   The opportunity to participate in Carlo’s gratitude mastermind

41.   The abundance of love, support and encouragement I am surrounded with

42.   The blessing to live another day